Marriages end for many reasons, from simple reasons like incompatibility to more tense ones like infidelity. Divorces are no longer as uncommon as they once were and can arise without one party being the aggressor.
For instance, the case may be that one or both spouses changed over time, or they fell out of love with each other. Regardless of whether the breaking of a union is amicable or hostile, a mediator can help ease the proceedings for all parties involved and introduce numerous advantages.
1. The divorcing couple retains control
When a divorce involves litigation, the judge makes the final decision. In mediation, the spouses make the choices through negotiation and have the final say in the end. They retain the power to end or continue proceedings and to reject provisions they do not like. This also allows them to have as much time as they want if they need more.
2. The process is faster and cheaper
Going to court involves more time because the couple must follow the court’s schedule, not their own. There is also a great deal of paperwork to fill out and process, which adds to the time required.
3. The likelihood of everyone leaving happy is greater
Mediation reduces conflict because the mediator acts as a neutral buffer, reducing stress and fighting. It is also a collaborative effort that does not end until both sides reach a satisfactory agreement. If negotiations hit a wrinkle, the mediator can offer advice to help resolve it.
While not a guarantee of peace, mediation is a tool that generally reduces conflict and offers less tense negotiations. It also has the potential to reduce associated costs and time and lead to a happier resolution.